So much has happened since the last time I wrote a post! My goals have changed as I added one more little sould into my family. Yes you read that right. I had a baby. A baby girl and her name is Zoe. Zoe or as we like to call her at home… baby Zozo is now 5 months old! She is the most chill baby ever. Baby Zozo completes this family.
Dirty Thirty
I am 30! I have been waiting what feels like my whole life to be 30. Weird? I know, I have felt 30 for a very long time. I wanted to be 30 for such a long time that I would lie about my age!!! I know, I know, I know!!! But in honer of me turning 30, here are 30 amazing facts about me!
- I am 100% Mexican
- I am 30
- I am the middle sister (Brother 33, Sister 28)
- I have 2 kids of my own and 1 step kid that I love as my own
- I married at age 19
- I had my first kids at age 19
- I married my high school sweet heart
- I divorced him by age 22
- I had the perfect daughter at age 25 from a different relationship
- I’m a huge GOD believer
- I am christian
- Crime junkie super fan!
- My family (parents,siblings) live in Mexico
- I plan to retire in Mexico
- I live in the same Chicago suburb I was born and raised in
- Growing up I wanted to be a Doctor
- Turns out I am a better business woman. I own 2 cell phone stores
- I love writing
- Blogging is a passion of mine
- Reading nerd
- I am weak for reality shows any show to be honest
- I am an introvert
- I want Myspace back . I might come out with my own version of it
- I still maintain the same friends from middle school
- I struggle with anxiety
- Korean food is my favorite aside from Mexican food
- I drive a lot so podcast keep me motivated
- Coffee addict
- Blue is my favorite color
- My kids are my everything
I have so many more where all that came from but I will leave them for my next birthday.
xoxo,
Yvonne H.
Monthly Goals
It’s the beginning of a new month once again! I can not believe that we are in November, where has time gone. I feel that every time I blink I am making my monthly goals again.
And that was my introduction to this brand new post. Coming to you from my back office (a dirty party table and broke down chair, but a girl can dream) It is that time of the month again where I don’t want to look. As I like to call it… It’s my “out of my comfort” days.
At the beginning of the month I like to look back on the previous month and see where I stand on my financial goals as well as my personal growth goals.I also plan my new goals or carry over the things that I couldn’t accomplish last month into the new month. For example, I write down all my payments due this month, the amount and the dates and they are on auto. I do this on a big calendar. And then I go over with highlight, whats my personal bills, what are my business bills. I run a business for my daytime job (more of my 24/7 job). I hate seeing all this bills and amounts on my calendar it kinda gives me anxiety. Adulthood gives me anxiety.
I also like to write down my credit card balances, my credit score, my weight and compare it to where it was last month and put little notes as to why things did or did not change. It’s a good reminder of “little improvements” add up at the end of the year. I write down my goals, for example…. Keeping the home clean, drinking x amount of water everyday, working out 3x a week, books I want to read that month, and of course family time. I like to doodle over this area, this is my pretty area.
I do a check in with my calendar and myself once a week every Sunday for about an hour or so. To keep me motivated and updated. I am not the most organized person but I would like to be someday and hopefully with this baby steps I am able to accomplish more little by little. Do you guys have a monthly routine that you like to follow to keep you on track? What method of organization do you use? I have been thinking about maybe moving to digital planing.
XOXO,
Yvonne
Time For Change
The time has come where the leasing office reaches out to me with an offer to renew my lease in their community. My lease is over in October and with inflation the rents are going up. I have been so nervous about my rent going up and by how much. Well, the universe works in mysterious ways because the office reached out to me earlier than usual. It is like the universe knew I needed to know. Well rent went up. Not by much but more than usual.
I have been living in this community for about 4 years now and it feels like home now to my kids. My oldest is nervous to move. He struggles with anxiety like I do, and we do not like change or the unknown.
My fist apartment here was the cutest things ever! It felt so mine. It was small but big enough for us. it was cozy, it was 2 room and 2 bathrooms. We had a 1 1/2 car garage, our car fit perfectly, and we still had room for our bike and workout things. Because that was my workout space. I had a punching bag, all my weights, my yoga mat. My kids shared room. At the time I only had 2 kids. And my youngest which was 4 would sleep with me most of the time. I gave them the biggest room with the biggest closet which could be a room, they had their own bathroom and a double sink. Each kid had a place for their own things. We had small round dining room table that fit 1 more person if we wanted to invite someone over for dinner. There was a place to hang-up the backpacks when we got home from school and work. And I even had a dry erase planner above it to keep up with everyone schedules! The living room was the perfect size for our small blue sectional and our $20 Walmart bookcase. We had our own private entrance and our own fenced in yard that we did not have to do the upkeep to. Which is the best part about this place. They keep ’em looking nice!
When we moved in 2018 our building was just finished being built so we were the first to live in that apt. everything was new and beautiful. Never thought I would get to live in a place like that, and then BOOM I did. I still remember walking into that apartment for the first time. it was love at first sight. I saw it, I wanted it, and I got it! So many great memories there.
I was running away from my old situation. From the misery I was in the apartment before this one.
And now I am doing the same. I decided to expand my family and get back with my ex. We added one more munchkin to the mix and upgraded apartment. Still the same community but a 3bd instead and 2 car garage. It is bigger here, but it never felt cozy. It never felt like a home. Same layout just a few more feet. Things did not work out between us. We coparent now. But because this new apartment was supposed to be for our growing family and things did not go that way it felt empty. My worst times are in this apartment. Here I got cheated on again! I was pregnant and alone here. I had anxiety here. I would spend countless nights praying to God for forgiveness because I felt punished. I was sad, hurt, wounded. My soul got shattered here, I was lied to, emotionally abused. What I thought was going to be a cozy apartment turned into a cold, empty place to sleep in. Nothing looks good for me here. So now that my lease is coming to an end, it is time to move. To run away from here. I need something new, different, where I get a chance to start all over again as who I am today. No reminders of what could have been or should have. I am excited for this new home. New chapter for us as a coparenting family.
I am going to miss it here. I know my kids are too. But I know it is time, I can feel it in my bones that my time in this community had ended. I grew here. And I am looking forward to making more memories in our new home.
xoxo,
Yvonne H
Happy 32nd Birthday to me!
Let me take you back to 2005! Going from 30 to 32 has been a rollercoaster ride experience. The last time I posted about my birthday I was turning 30. I skipped 31 and went into 32.
I feel great! better than ever. My 30s have begun and they are everything I have ever imagined. I have 3 amazing, adorable kids that I love so much and make my life so much better and my apartment so much messier. My bonus son is getting older, and it is such a blessing watching him grow into such a handsome young man. Business is doing well, and the pandemic seems to be almost over.
For my birthday I celebrated all month this year. I went out to dinners, I went out for drinks, I laughed so much, and I threw myself an awesome birthday party! I took us all back to the early 2000s. It was such a fun night, and I am so glad that all my family could come and celebrate with me. On that note. Cheers to being 32!
Something new, Something Old
In with the new, out with the old. Or maybe not just yet.
I have been in business now almost 5 years!!! (5 years in March ) In the cell phone world. I currently own 2 Boost Mobile stores. Which I absolutely love! But this past year (2019) has been such a rough year for my business. I have had many ups and downs and just had to relearn everything again. Now after this business roller coaster that I am just getting off I have decided that doing just this, doesn’t make me happy anymore like it used to. I want more adventure. I want to keep moving forward.
So…. I am looking into opening a small cozy cafe. Not another Starbucks. But more personal. More cozy and more friendly. I want it to be themed but I still haven’t decided all the details. I am just excited to be able to do something I always wanted to do since I was young! And I just can’t believe I am already looking at spaces.
With all the excitement, I am wondering if I should record like a vlog the whole process? I think it would be a fun idea to do just for my records. Just to see where I started and where it gets me year after year. Any thoughts?
I am also debating what exactly I am going to especialiase in.. Should I do just coffee? coffee and pastries? what kind of pastries? Coffee and bubble tea? what colors to use? So many questions. In my current business right now we are a franchise meaning that they do all the directing of what colors the store should be, what will be selling, the plans offered to costumers, they advertise for us as well. There’s very little space for making it your own. Which is why I want something that I can make my own.
Something you guys may not know… I worked at Starbucks for 2 years when I was a teenager and I went from knowing nothing about coffee (was not a coffee drinker) to knowing A LOT! To falling in love with the magic of coffee. I loved talking to people and making them their drinks. It was really fun. I am looking forward to starting my own thing here. I know that just like any business, it is going to take a lot of time, money, and patience. But I am so ready to start a new adventure.
I know by the title it may seem that I will no longer have my Boost Mobile store, but …. I am still keeping my Boost Mobile store and adding a few more this year. I am just stepping away from being on the sales floor everyday. I am excited for whats to come, and I hope you guys follow me along this new awesome journey.
XOXO,
Yvonne
Anxiety
What is anxiety? According to google, the definition of anxiety is intense, excessive, and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. Fast heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating, and feeling tired may occur.
Anxiety is something that I have experience for 2 years now. I choose to start my first blog post with the topic of anxiety. After all, that has been the reason why it has taken me so long to finally launch something I feel so confident and happy about.
My anxiety lately has been horrible. It is always there but some days, anxiety is all there is. I have been thinking about going to my doctor for a consultation but anxiety won’t allow me to do that. I feel ashamed.
Though on the outside people cannot tell that on the inside I am screaming. I don’t know if I know how to hide it well or if I am just so used to living with anxiety that it has now become a part of me. I want to get better, I do. I don’t know where to start.
What triggered my anxiety? well that’s a whole series of posts. I know exactly why anxiety started and why I still have it. But what I cannot seem to figure out is how to manage it, or how to have easier days. I worry about things that I cannot change, and things that have not happened yet. I get stuck in my head at times, and can’t seem to look beyond that.
Have you ever experience anxiety? What do/have you done to make it better?
xoxo,
Yvonne H.